When you met your spouse, you were head over heels. Then somewhere along the way life got in the way and you lost that passion. You may feel like you have too much to do and not enough time. Romance got pushed to the back burner. You and your spouse may feel as though you never see each other, or even worse, you may be having more frequent arguments.
If your marriage seems to be on shaky ground, take heart. There are ways you can get those loving feelings back. Read on for a few starter ideas.
• Make time for each other. That sounds simply, but one of the biggest reasons a lot of marriages lose their sizzle is because partners simply don’t spend enough time together. It’s hard to maintain a connection with someone you never see. Don’t think you have the time? Remember that quality is more important than quantity. Some days you may only be able to fit ten minutes here and there for couple time, but if you use them wisely you can still reap major benefits. Spend the time you do have together engaged in one another. That means no movies or TV. Talk to each other, and really listen to what your spouse has to say. Even this little bit will help you feel more connected.
• Touch each other. You don’t have to have sex every day, but it’s still important to spend a little time each day making physical contact. Kiss each other goodbye. Cuddle for a few minutes before bed. Hold hands as you walk.
• Relive the past. Yes, your life is different now and you have more responsibilities. But you can take a strip down memory lane every now and then to reignite your relationship. Go to the restaurant you went to on your first date. Rent a movie you watched during your dating years. By remembering how you came together in the first place, you’ll start to remember everything you love about each other.
Although these steps are a start, if your marriage is on shaky ground you should seek the advice of a trained counselor.